Self-compassion is the ability to look within and have empathy towards oneself. To not be judgmental and critical, but rather, open to learning and growing without being fearful of failure. Most of us can understand this on an intellectual level yet we still struggle with the task of self-compassion.
Having self-compassion allows for us to see the humanity from the greater perspective of universal struggle and to remember that we are all experiencing life together on various levels. Being more self-compassionate allows us to be more present in our relationships and in our daily responsibilities. This sense of presence is often referred to as “being mindful.” We can honor the feelings that arise out of our fear and anxiety instead of hiding from them. Self-compassion requires that we take time for our body and focus on health and wellness. Despite wanting to indulge in negative coping habits, we should put efforts toward limiting the harmful choices that increase our vulnerability to stress and disease. Creating community and connecting with others is a beautiful way to care for ourselves and avoid feeling isolated during this time. This can may require stepping out of our comfort zone to connect virtually, but it is so important that we allow others to “see” us.
Be creative in finding ways to better care for yourselves and make the time—you are worth it. Having self-compassion has to be at the core of our healing before we can take care of others. While this is a juggling act for many of us balancing the various roles we take on, it is essential. Take the empathy and love you feel towards others and turn that inward—the results can be powerful.
Until next time, be well.
Lauren Seltzer, LMFT